Source: Radio IKIM FM, KL on 8 September 2012 at 8am-9am. Ustaz ____?
Itkan - working more than expected, giving more than expected, expecting less than expected.
Heart clinic - masjid
Heart medicine - Qur'an
Read Qur'an before open Facebook
Avoid unhealthy places - nightclubs, karaoke, dance clubs, drinking places, etc
Things which destroy the hearts of man - intoxicants (alcoholic beverages)
Ihsan - do your good
Quit or change attitude towards work - if you don't agree
We cannot talk or brag (ungkit-ungkit) about our good deeds as this will automatically annul the good deeds themselves and we stand to lose from their potential rewards from Allah SWT (membatalkan sedeqah dengan tersendiri).
It should not matter whether we are appreciated or not. We must continue to work even though we are not appreciated by humans as Allah SWT knows and appreciates us. We do not need appreciation by humans as the appreciation by Allah SWT is a lasting one. That by humans is temporary and we are forgotten the minute we die.
Law of Compensation
There are 2 aspects of what you get (rezeki).
For example, if your work is worth RM3K and you perform your work that is worth RM5K, people will say you are stupid, silly, bodoh, rugi, etc. But this is not so in Islam. In Islam, whatever humans cannot appreciate or pay is appreciated and paid by Allah SWT.
If you work more than you are paid, then Allah SWT makes your rezeki bountiful, your family is happy, your children are healthy and no sickness befalls your family. There is longevity and health. The person is attracted to good knowledge that benefits him and his family (terdorong kepada ilmu yang bermanfaat).
However, if you work less than what you are paid, then Allah SWT will pull back some of what you have. He can take your spouse (death) or any family member. He can make a family member sick or ill or die. The family is always unhappy and cannot experience happiness or tranquility. The family is always troubled by many things.
Even a good wife who is unappreciated by her husband will get the attention and love from Allah SWT, and she will feel calm and happy, and continue to do good for her family.
Sunatullah - relationships between humans
Syariatullah - relationship between man and his Creator, Allah SWT
Why do we have a lot of problems today?
How to teach the child
Age 0-6: Mention Allah to the child and over 6 years, the name Allah is easily remembered. The child's brain in plastic and learns easily but the child's memory is short term and he forgets ill-feelings or unhappiness and smiles again.
Age 7-12: Discipline the child. Teach the child to perform solat and give thanks to Allah SWT.
Age 7-12: Teach 'adab' to the child. The child must learn the norms of his society and that of his religion.
Age 12-18: Teach the child his responsibilities to himself, parents, family and community.
Age 18 and beyond: Teach the child as suitable to his capabilities and aptitude.